Overcoming Challenges as a CoachNovember 22, 2017
Coaching can be a challenging experience for both parties involved, but these challenges donít have to hinder the success of the relationship. Not everyone is meant to be a coach. Coaching takes time, skill, and careful planning in order for it to be successful and the coach and coachee have to be willing to work hard together. But the real leader of the relationship is the coach, so it is important for them to prepare for possible challenges from the beginning.
Here are a few challenges that a coach may experience during the coaching relationship.
Overcoming First Impressions
First impressions are very important for both parties. While the coach and coachee arenít required to be best friends, they need to build a working relationship from day one in order to be successful. This can be difficult if the first impression isnít the best.
In order to overcome a less than perfect first impression, it is important for the coach to remember that change is possible and not everything is as it seems. If the coach feels that they have misunderstood their coacheeís intentions, they can take an alternative view and try to see things from the other perspective. This allows them to change their impression without having to address anything with the coachee. Itís also very important for the coach to manage their emotions. Building this relationship takes time and part of coaching is helping your coachee to grow in both their professional and personal lives. This canít be done if the coach canít keep their emotions in check.
Building Confidence in Your Coachee
This is a very common challenge for most coaches. They have a talented employee who just doesnít believe he or she has what it takes to be successful. When these insecurities are felt, the coachee doesnít put their best foot forward in their work or the coaching relationship. Although it can be tough to help build confidence in another person, it is not impossible.
One solution to this challenge is for the coach to be very specific about what the coachee is doing well. It is imperative that they give praise when things are going well and not dwell on the skills that still need to be worked on. Once a coachee has mastered a skill, the coach can encourage them to use the skill in different areas to continue to build their confidence.
Building Trust in Your Coaching Relationship
The coaching process is meant to build trust between the involved parties. This should be something that is started from the first meeting. It is hard to teach someone you do not trust and also to learn from someone you do not trust, so this challenge can be detrimental to the relationship if not addressed.
A great way to build trust in your coaching relationship is by the coach monitoring and checking in with the coachee from the beginning. If these check-ins are done on a regular basis the coachee will be more likely to trust that the coach has their best interest in mind and not assume that they are only checking in when things are going as well. Setting these expectations up front is going to change the relationship in a positive way.
Itís important that as a coach you trust the coaching process and remember that there are limits to coaching. Not all coaching relationships are a success, but you have a better chance of being successful if you face challenges head on and remember that your priority is to help your mentee.
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