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What Happens in a Bad Mentor Match?
What to do when a mentoring relationship is not working out?
Should the mentee end the relationship if they feel their mentorship isn’t working?
Yes, but beforehand, they need to go back and workout what exactly didn’t work and decide whether it can be fixed or not. Here are some tips:Go back to the mentoring agreement and review if what was agreed upon has been fulfilled. Are both parties giving enough time at the right interval for the relationship to be successful? It's important to recognize that one person is never completely responsible for the success or failure of the partnership.
Review the agreed learning goals, were they achievable? If not, why? Does the mentor have enough experience in these areas?
Be open with the mentor. If the mentee is feeling the relationship has stagnated the mentee should ask if the mentor feels the same.
What are the common reasons a mentorship isn’t successful?Poor match from the start. They could have possibly been matched with wrong person, we strongly recommend using a mentor matching tool to ensure the mentee and mentor are a perfect match for each other.
The mentor's situation changed. Sometimes we see the mentor's circumstances changed between when they volunteered and when they were matched. For example, they could have taken on a new project and have less availability.
Lack of training. It’s possible that the mentee and mentor lack the necessary training to conduct their role. We recommend both the mentor and mentee should be trained so they fully understand the goals of the program, their role, and learn about possible challenges that could arise.
Personality clash. Sometimes we find that not understanding each other's working style from the start of the relationship can cause conflict. Insala offers “Psychometric Assessments” that allow participants to understand their personality type and working style and that of their mentor or mentee. If you understand your mentoring partner better at the start of the relationship you will have the right expectations on how they will interact with you.
How should the relationship end?
There will be times when a mentorship doesn't work out for one reason or another. If terms cannot be negotiated or realigned, the mentor and mentee may need to split ways.
It is critical to note: This does not indicate failure on either person’s part; rather, it simply recognizes that the partnership is not productive.
A meeting with the mentoring program administrator, mentor, and mentee gives the program admin the opportunity to make sure ending the relationship is right for the situation and aid in dissolving the relationship in a respectful and professional way. The program admin should also gather feedback from the mentor and mentee to understand if there is anything that needs to change about the matching process going forward that could improve the program overall.
Avoiding Bad Mentorship Matches
Here are related articles that may help:
- Best Practices for Developing Your Mentor Matching Process
- Criteria for Matching Mentors and Mentees for Career Development
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